MP Courtesy
Posted: Mon Jun 07, 2010 2:09 am
Gentleman (and perhaps the occasional lady):
I hate to big the big bad wolf and perhaps I'm even stepping over my limit in doing so, but I will anyway, and I hope that everyone will bear with me.
I believe that after getting a taste of the forum for the past several years, and MP in the past few weeks, I have gotten most of the positive and negative aspects of the Multiplayer community.
It is understood that many people are very competitive (like me), and will do everything to win a MP battle. This includes chewing out people that miserably fail.
Unfortunatly, sometimes this goes to far, perhaps just to of occasionally harassing on the board or in teamspeak, to downright disgust of the tactically-inept person all the time. If I may say so, this needs to stop.
Perhaps I need to be blunt, so I will. What all I've said comes down to is one word: bullying.
We are one heck of a small community here, with people stretching from Britain, to Africa, to Australia, to the US, and we cannot afford for people to be angry with each other. Norb has too many things going on to solve domestic disputes, and frankly, some of us are tired of the constant battering of poor individuals. I'm sure we've all heard someone say it, but to be a royal pain, I'll repeat it: If you have nothing good to say, don't say it at all. (Sorry to act like your mother, but it had to be done to bring across my point.)
However, I'm not saying, drop the competitive spirit. I always am ready for a challenging game, and I will serve my best to help out the side I'm on. If I play badly in a game, I can stand the harassment, and I learn from my mistakes. In fact, I support the clans, and teams, and I'm unfortunate to not have a regular time schedual that I can fight with teams of friends against my friends playing as my foes.
While many people on this forum and I can stand the heat and the competition, I would like to remind everyone that there are people out there that just want to play a friendly one on one game that is relaxed. Or maybe, they just want to play with a large group of people in a friendly fashion, without the highly competitive spirit.
To solve this, I would advise creating a regular password on MP known to people who regularly participate in competitive games, and run set up games with that password (just include me on that list of regulars). A word of caution, however. Due to the competitive nature of a large portion of the gaming community here, that may mean that many people will not be able to play MP games that often. So I challenge those competitive natured people to play against those that aren't as competitive, perhaps with a setting of 70 or 80 instead of 100, to make it fun for everyone. Then the competitive person really has to work hard to win, and the non-competitive general can have fun without being overrun or looking like they're a terrible player.
So I urge you, take this message from a friend and consider it. Again, we are a small group of civil war game players that want to have fun, competitive or not. There is no reason why some of us cannot have the same opportunity for fun just because they don't have the same killer instinct as the rest of us.
Perhaps as a threat, I would like to remind those of the community who continue to harass those that have played not to par that they should watch what they are saying. If it came down to it, I am a freshman high school runner with a mile time of 4:27. That is the third fastest freshman in the state of Washington, and fastest enough to be top eight in Arizona, for all classes, freshman through seniors. If anyone is competitive enough, I am always willing for a race, and unless you are a college runner or a professional runner, I doubt you can beat me in a mile. I am positive it would not look good on this forum if it was known that you were beaten by a fifteen year old.
When it comes down to it, let those of us that want to be competitive, be competitive, and remember to allow those that want to just play, a game to play. We are a tight community and this community will not survive long if it is borne by the strife of clans, and the harassment of individuals. If we work together in a fun way, we can achieve a special group of friends that will support each other, like the way the forum supported JC Edwards during his down time.
Let the best general win, and the worst player have the best time.
I thank all of you for reading this and giving some thought to what I have to say.
I hate to big the big bad wolf and perhaps I'm even stepping over my limit in doing so, but I will anyway, and I hope that everyone will bear with me.
I believe that after getting a taste of the forum for the past several years, and MP in the past few weeks, I have gotten most of the positive and negative aspects of the Multiplayer community.
It is understood that many people are very competitive (like me), and will do everything to win a MP battle. This includes chewing out people that miserably fail.
Unfortunatly, sometimes this goes to far, perhaps just to of occasionally harassing on the board or in teamspeak, to downright disgust of the tactically-inept person all the time. If I may say so, this needs to stop.
Perhaps I need to be blunt, so I will. What all I've said comes down to is one word: bullying.
We are one heck of a small community here, with people stretching from Britain, to Africa, to Australia, to the US, and we cannot afford for people to be angry with each other. Norb has too many things going on to solve domestic disputes, and frankly, some of us are tired of the constant battering of poor individuals. I'm sure we've all heard someone say it, but to be a royal pain, I'll repeat it: If you have nothing good to say, don't say it at all. (Sorry to act like your mother, but it had to be done to bring across my point.)
However, I'm not saying, drop the competitive spirit. I always am ready for a challenging game, and I will serve my best to help out the side I'm on. If I play badly in a game, I can stand the harassment, and I learn from my mistakes. In fact, I support the clans, and teams, and I'm unfortunate to not have a regular time schedual that I can fight with teams of friends against my friends playing as my foes.
While many people on this forum and I can stand the heat and the competition, I would like to remind everyone that there are people out there that just want to play a friendly one on one game that is relaxed. Or maybe, they just want to play with a large group of people in a friendly fashion, without the highly competitive spirit.
To solve this, I would advise creating a regular password on MP known to people who regularly participate in competitive games, and run set up games with that password (just include me on that list of regulars). A word of caution, however. Due to the competitive nature of a large portion of the gaming community here, that may mean that many people will not be able to play MP games that often. So I challenge those competitive natured people to play against those that aren't as competitive, perhaps with a setting of 70 or 80 instead of 100, to make it fun for everyone. Then the competitive person really has to work hard to win, and the non-competitive general can have fun without being overrun or looking like they're a terrible player.
So I urge you, take this message from a friend and consider it. Again, we are a small group of civil war game players that want to have fun, competitive or not. There is no reason why some of us cannot have the same opportunity for fun just because they don't have the same killer instinct as the rest of us.
Perhaps as a threat, I would like to remind those of the community who continue to harass those that have played not to par that they should watch what they are saying. If it came down to it, I am a freshman high school runner with a mile time of 4:27. That is the third fastest freshman in the state of Washington, and fastest enough to be top eight in Arizona, for all classes, freshman through seniors. If anyone is competitive enough, I am always willing for a race, and unless you are a college runner or a professional runner, I doubt you can beat me in a mile. I am positive it would not look good on this forum if it was known that you were beaten by a fifteen year old.
When it comes down to it, let those of us that want to be competitive, be competitive, and remember to allow those that want to just play, a game to play. We are a tight community and this community will not survive long if it is borne by the strife of clans, and the harassment of individuals. If we work together in a fun way, we can achieve a special group of friends that will support each other, like the way the forum supported JC Edwards during his down time.
Let the best general win, and the worst player have the best time.
I thank all of you for reading this and giving some thought to what I have to say.
